GRATITUDE
"Şükran,
my name is Şükran, Şükran from gratitude..." she would say to those who
asked. Şükran loved to tell her story.
Since she
was the only one to continue family name, whole family wished her to give birth
to a boy. The birth midwife gave the good news and left the home after birth.
When the father arrived, he immediately understood, from the expressions of
everyone including his wife, that he was the father of the seventh daughter. " What did
not please you?” he asked in a harsh tone beyond reproach.
"The birth of a child?"
"That mother and baby are healthy because
of an easy birth?”
"That you don't have anything enough to
be sad in your life?"
His father
was a man of few words, but when he did speak, he impressed everyone. She always
felt happy to have a father who was grateful for her birth. Maybe that's why she
had a closer relationship with him than she built with her mother. His farewell
to them and the world was unexpected and too early. But by naming her
"Şükran”, he bequeathed the trust, hope and the joy she would need to
continue her life.
Suddenly
the mood of the room changed. Some coughed, some changed the way of their
sitting, some stood up and some bowed their heads. "Be thankful," he
said. “First be thankful for what you have been granted, then welcome it, then
steep it within you. Be thankful that you have the skill to consider what
lessons you should derive from this situation. If it is hard to do this, be
thankful again and just ask for patience. Can Creator wrong you when He is in
your favor?”
Her aunt
used to repeat his these speech for years. She would praise her brother,
encourage him to be grateful while enjoying to find an audience.
Is it really a personal choice to be grateful? Isn't everything already worthy of
gratitude?
Why and
when we normalized everything so much?
Was it
because we gained more wealth?
Was it
because of having more power?
Was it
because thinking that we gained all these power and wealth by our own skills?
Maybe the
situation was sad, maybe, but it was still instructive.
Just like
her Turkish teacher’s words, "The worst examples warn you what not to
be."
In other
words, everything is a teacher for those who aspire to learn.
Şükran
loved learning and tried to put what she learned into practice. She inherited
this from her father. Because useless knowledge was a burden on the mind.
What can
arrogant people, who think they know everything they heard, learn?
Can anybody
remain unchanged?
Is there a gap
in life?
Repeated mistakes,
time lost in correcting them, resentment, anger, tension, endless complaints
and finally being ingratitude...
He used to
say, "This life is either spent being gratitude or complaining and
cursing."
Isn't the granter
of all these things worthy of gratitude even if we are not grateful?
Could we
breath or use our hands if He did not let us to do so?
It is all
the wisdom and blessing of the Granter.
Shouldn't
we be thankful for these?
Also the
animals would not be able to move if they were not allowed to do…
What makes
man different than animals?
What makes them
being gratitute?
Is it because
of having ability to see, hear, taste or sense?
No, none of
them…
It is
because of having a will that can choose to be grateful or not.
Otherwise,
would the will have been given?
Would he be
told;
"Make
your choice to be grateful or to curse."?
"Choose!"
he was told. "Distinguish what is good and give it its due."
Say “Thanks”
and be gratitude without getting tired and exhausting others, without
forgetting that everything is worthy of gratitude…
If only one
would realize it; without getting hurt, without losing what he has...
Whether he
is aware or not, satisfied or not, of the things he is given temporarily...
If only he
knew that everything is worthy of gratitude, if only he could do justice to
what he knows...
If only he realized...
If only he
could be thankful
If only he
could be thankful
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