Pearl
“Pearllll…
Come on sweetheart, time to get up…
You’re
going to be late for school.
You
stay up all night and then don’t want to get out of bed in the morning.
Look,
I made your favorite, omelette.
Come
on now, breakfast is ready…”
It was the same
thing everyday. Pearl was the only daughter of a couple who had long given up
hope of having children. She was the apple of her parents’ eyes, and even her
grandparents’. Naturally, her being adorable played a part. The whole family
seemed to revolve around her. Whatever she wanted, she got.
“If my precious girl wants it, how could I say
no?” her father would say. They were a
well-off family, and Pearl had been pampered from the very beginning. If her
wishes weren’t granted, she’d make quite the fuss. At a very young age, she had
already learned how to manage her parents.
With all that
comfort around her, how could anyone expect her to just get up and go to
school? Whenever she didn’t feel like going, she’d come up with all sorts of
excuses. Sometimes she’d claim her stomach hurt, other times she’d complain
about her friends. It took her ages to get ready and leave the house.
Neither her
mother nor her father had yet realized the harm they were causing. Pearl was
growing up in comfort, yes—but she was also growing more unhappy by the day. If
things continued this way, would they ever be able to prepare her for life?
They had fallen
into the same trap many parents do. Sadly, they didn’t even realize it. By
granting her every wish and never saying “no,” they were slowly weakening her.
The more they gave, the less content she became. She didn’t know how to be
pleased with what she had—she always wanted more.
What shapes and
matures a person are the responsibilities they take
on throughout life. Can someone who always gets what they want ever
truly accomplish something?
The Experiential Design Teaching says: “A person’s strengthand happiness come not from the comfort and advantages they receive, but from the responsibilities they shoulder and the determination they show when faced with challenges.”
Think of a living being that creates a pearl from grains of sand and dust that enter its shell. That creature is the oyster. When foreign particles enter the oyster’s shell, they irritate its soft inner tissues. As a defense, the oyster begins to secrete a substance known as nacre, or mother-of-pearl. Over time, this secretion coats the irritant. Sometimes this process takes years—and eventually, the beautiful pearl we see in jewelry is formed. The more layers a pearl has, the more valuable it becomes. Creating a pearl is a painstaking process.
Just like the
oyster, humans encounter many difficulties in life. The strength to turn those
troubles into pearls lies within us. Each pearl may look similar on the
outside, but no two are exactly the same. Just as freshwater and saltwater
pearls differ, so do people—similar on the surface, yet unique in their
details.
What shapes a
person and makes them unique is not the privileges they are given, but what
they manage to do despite their circumstances. If we want to raise our children
like pearls, we need to entrust them with responsibilities—within their
capacity. Providing support and guidance, rather than acceding to every demand,
proves to be more beneficial. By taking on responsibility, they gradually
uncover their inner nacre. Only then can the tiny grains of sand and dust start
transforming into precious pearls.
To raise children
like pearls, Let’s begin… with a small
responsibility.
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