TRUE WELDING
Ball
of Trouble
Kenan
was a very popular man whom everyone called “Sweet Kenan”. Everyone who
looked from the outside thought it was very pleasant to be in the same house
with him. But Sanem was crying, “No matter what I do, I can't be good enough
for this man.” Within fifteen minutes of entering the house, whatever was
supposed to happen would happen and they would find themselves in an argument.
It was as if they were not the ones who married in love. She did not know how
they had become like this. Yet they had intended to be companions for a
lifetime.
Sanem
was in a big dilemma. She loved Kenan, she knew that leaving him was not the
solution. But things were very tense, especially when it came to raising
children. Most of the time fights broke out because of this. When she said “Don't
treat the child like that!”, he would start with “You know best!”.
This infuriated her so much that she couldn't bear to hear his voice. Of
course, her relationship with her child was also bad. It was as if there was a
polarization in the house. Their relationship had turned into a triple ball of
problems.
Sanem
had a bad relationship not only with her husband, but also with the people
close to her. Her interactions with the person she called her best friend had
been very superficial.
Deep
Thoughts
“Why,
why is this happening?” she thought, it hurt so much.
“Nobody
cares about my thoughts, my priorities, my feelings,” she
thought to herself. “It's like I have no value for them. I feel like I'm
burning as I take them with me and get closer.”
People
are like countries and each country has borders with the other. Some with less
and some with more, some far and some close... The important thing is to decide
with whom we come into contact and within what boundaries. Sometimes being two
good people is not enough to have a happy relationship. Because if we meet on
the wrong boundaries, we will have problems in our relationship. If we remove
the boundaries, what comes in invades our lives.
Or
people can be described as tiny cogs that run huge machines. For movement to
take place, the gears that come into contact must fit perfectly. They must not
interfere with the movement where they meet. If one is a little too small or
too big, the wheel will not turn.
Sometimes
people think they are doing right in their relationships, but sometimes they
set the boundaries wrong, sometimes they make decisions that stop the movement
in their lives. So instead of benefiting each other, they harm each other. But
every person has a good side. When people are united in wrong, they cannot turn
the wheel. They cause small and big wounds in each other and make each other
bleed and bleed.
True
Welding
That's
why life is like a sensitive balance most of the time. It is necessary to
establish the balances in our lives and make the movement continuous. It is
best to try to merge with the good sides of the people we come across in life.
It is not easy to do this because human beings are creatures with different
desires. But as long as the direction and intention of the person is not
different, it is much easier to do this.
How
can the machine work if the cogs turn in the opposite direction, or how long
can peace last between two countries if one intends to occupy the other? That's
why the Experiential Design Teaching says, "Look at the direction and
intentions of the people next to you. If they are different from yours, it is
not possible to make that relationship work."
The "Who is Who", "Mastery in Relationships" and "Success
Psychology" Seminar Programs offer the needed methods for those
who want to be happy and successful in life by solving their problems and
achieving their goals.
"There is only one thing in life that never can
be discovered; The better one..."
Yahya Hamurcu
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